Questions worth answering twice · 6 questions

No masks

The last and most personal part of the questions from Arthur Aron's experiment. You're answering only to yourself: the letter is never public and no one but you will read it. On the day it arrives you'll answer again and compare.

1Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
2When did you last cry in front of another person? And by yourself?
3What was the most embarrassing moment of your life?
4What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
5If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone?
6Your house catches fire. Your loved ones and pets are safe, and you have time for one final dash to save a single item. What would it be, and why?

When should the letter reach you?

in six months in a year in 3 years in 5 years

The letter contains the questions and your answers — including blank spaces for the ones you skipped. It is never public. Like every e-wehikul letter: first you confirm your address by clicking the link in the email.

More questions

Warm-up questions Light questions about dreams and the things you love: who you'd invite to dinner, what your perfect day looks like. Answer today, read it in a year and see what has changed. Start answering → What matters Questions about values and memories: what you value in friendship, what you're proud of, what you're still waiting for. Your answers will come back to you as a letter. Start answering → Quiz: You in the future Pick a horizon — six months, a year, 3 or 5 years — and answer seven questions. Explorer, Builder, Creator or Guardian? We'll send you the result as a letter to the future, exactly on the chosen date. Start the quiz →

The questions come from a 1997 study by psychologist Arthur Aron and colleagues on how conversation builds closeness. We chose the ones you can answer on your own, in a letter to yourself.